Hello there! It feels like forever since I last wrote about anything, even though it’s only been a week. I decided to share with you all some huge news about the bracelet special we ran the last week. I had a goal of selling 20 bracelets. Twenty-five percent of the proceeds from each bracelet sold went to Resolve. Each year for Advocacy Day they want to bring light to issues those of us going through infertility face. They also talk about infertility in ways people don’t always think of, for example, male infertility and secondary infertility. Often times when we think of infertility we think of just women and they’d like to break that stigma and way of thinking. So many times women will get pregnant easily the first time and then have trouble when it comes to their second and third pregnancies. There are many factors and diseases that can cause secondary infertility, like PCOS (poly-cystic ovarian syndrome). So I wanted to do something that could impact others or give others a meaning for buying something. I mean how often do you go into a store and spend a ridiculous amount of money only to realize you didn’t need what you bought? I also try to give back to other charities as much as possible. I thought it would be a great way to have something that others can not only pass along one day, but get to know Resolve too. There aren’t many organizations out there dedicated to providing information about infertility or providing information about support groups. I love that Little Words Project and their staff were able to help me with this mission. I also love that they let me personally pick the word, the color of the word and what beaded bracelet it would go on. The experience was amazing and I can’t wait to see what we were able to donate! If you didn’t get a bracelet, hold tight because we bring it back for an additional week sometime soon! For everyone who purchased one, again I can’t thank you enough for your kindness and generosity! I’m very humbled and overwhelmed by your love and support of me.
I feel like this is a safe space to share experiences that happen in my life. I haven’t been able to get something that happened to me out of my mind. An incident occurred a few weeks ago on social media. One of my best friends posted a status asking an opinion about something because she was trying to settle a debate she and her husband were talking about. I commented but didn’t use the right phrasing. Not even five minutes later I received a private message about how my opinion made me a hypocrite because I stated that I notice certain things about people having to do with outwardly appearance. The comment that was made in the private message was what had me confused. The person who sent it said I should know what it feels like to be judged since I’m a former beauty queen and it’s hypocritical of me to say that because I’ve been judged on my appearance in the past. I’m bringing this up for several reasons. I wanted to bring attention to everyone is entitled to their opinion. I also wanted to talk about how just because I’m a former beauty queen doesn’t really mean I don’t notice things about people. If anything being in the industry has given me a way better appreciation for the tribe of people I have to make me look and feel beautiful, special shout out to Ebony at Bombshell Beauty Bar for always making me look and feel amazing! I guess my question for you all is, should I not have commented on the post or can I say things that like. My friend was merely asking if people notice/judge others for the way their eyebrows look. She told her husband she needed to get hers waxed and he said do people even notice. In my comment I said I do notice/judge but I also did say judge has a negative connotation to it and I don’t judge someone in a negative way. Again, my comment was not to be malicious but to simply say because of my background in the beauty industry it’s something I will probably always notice. My next question is, should I be more aware of how I say things because people are always going to be able to reference my time as Miss Captivating and I feel like I’m going to put on a higher standard than others who haven’t competed and won a title. I know there are times when I won’t always say the right thing and I learned a very valuable lesson through this conversation. I just didn’t know how any of you would have handled the situation any differently. Let me know because this is still on my mind about a week later! I just remember being bullied and called horrendous names while competing because others thought I wasn’t good enough. In the moment of commenting I wasn’t thinking about how the comment would come across to others.
Lesson learned: be careful how you use your words on social media.
Until Next Time