Endometriosis Awareness Month — March 21, 2017

Endometriosis Awareness Month

All month long I’ve tried to think of what to write. For some reason the words are there but I can’t seem to formulate the right sentences to create a coherent blog post. Here’s my best attempt to put everything into words 🙂

March is endometriosis awareness month. I’ve been reading stories all month from women sharing their stories, their fears, their goals, and what they hope they can accomplish by sharing what they’ve been through. The stories I’ve read all vary from women who have just been diagnosed to women who have known they’ve had this disease for a few years or more. Then I read one where a husband shared his point of view on what it’s like to take care of someone with endo. The story was awe inspiring. For me it touched a special place in my heart. It made me feel vulnerable in a way that I started crying. His words were so sweet and kind. He was gentle when he described the way he cares for his wife daily. I think that’s something that most people who don’t have this disease realize. When a man decides to marry a woman with this disease, he is marrying someone who is going to be tired, sick, and have flare up’s so bad nothing but an ER visit can take away the pain. Naturally, when I was reading this blog post I thought of Russell. I think of every day when I have to tell him my back hurts, or the cramps are more than cramps. Ironically its been 365 days since my 2nd surgery… ya know the one where they had no choice but to take out my left tube and ovary. It was that hospital stay that I asked him “Are you sure you want to marry me? What if I can’t give you children?” It was in that moment of imperfection, laying in a hospital bed, so drugged and sick that he told me he loves me for everything I am and if we can’t have kids then we have each other. Ladies, the one thing I know about Russell is how much he wants a family. His desire to have a family is strong. When a man marries a woman with endometriosis he marries the idea that children may not come. I thank the universe for Russell every day. My husband is an endo husband. He takes care of me. He tries to make my pain go away and comfort me when I’m at my worst. If you or someone you know has an endo husband, hug them tight. They are hard people to find. They are like finding a needle in a haystack. Endometriosis can put stress on a couple. It can make you both for guilty. Us women feel guilty for our spouses because we are keeping them from a healthier person. At least that’s one of my biggest guilty feelings. I tell Russell all the time that he could have been with anyone else. The guilt of being sick all the time creeps in and makes me feel awful. I think that’s why I needed to read a story about a couple going through endometriosis, and the article being written by the husband was on point. He committed to being the best endo-husband he could be. He told the readers of how many heating pads they have and how it doesn’t take him long to heat them up for his wife when she has a flare up. He also talked about how he knows when to step in and tell his wife to rest and when he knows she can push herself. An endo-husband is a caretaker and without them us wives would be lost.

I want to thank my endo-husband. Thank you for baring with me during the last year. I know four surgeries was tough. Four surgeries were stressful emotionally, physically draining and mentally challenging. Russell has been there for the darkest days of my existence. He has seen my biggest fears with endometriosis. He attends IVF appointments to educate himself further. I also am thankful for my endo-husband because every day he tells me we are going to be parents and he’ll see me grow through motherhood. I’m thankful every second of the day for my awesome husband. I am thankful for the support, advice and love he has given to me in the last year.

Having endometriosis is debilitating, it’s frustrating but in the end endo is apart of me. I have learned and grown so much this last year and I hope that if you are following this journey I have taught you a little something about endometriosis that you didn’t know before.

Happy Endometriosis Awareness month March!!!!