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I Am That Girl

As many of you know, I am now the new Dayton Chapter Leader for the AUH-MAZING non-profit organization called I Am That Girl. For those that don’t know this non-profit is a fairly new organization. I am beyond grateful to be the leader for the city of Dayton. So here is some information so you can get to know a little bit more about what I will be doing and trying to accomplish.

I AM That Girl (IATG) was founded in 2008 by Alexis Jones and Emily Greener. Their mission is to empower young women through having honest and open conversations in a safe environment. Thank goodness for women like them starting their own non-profit to bring women up, not tear them down.

I decided to get involved because all too often we see how awful people can be towards one another. I have seen first hand the way young women are spoken to and I want to change that. I want to change so many things about our society (but that’s another post for a different day). I want to change how women view themselves. How many times do we say “I’m fat” “I’m ugly” “I’m not wearing a cute outfit”…the list goes on. I want to change that. I want girls to say I’m pretty without having to wear a lot of makeup. I don’t need to be a certain size for me to think I’m pretty. I want women to say my body is the way that is it and I’m so thankful for the way I was made because that’s what makes me unique. We all can’t be the same. We all can’t look the same. BUT we all can defy the Hollywood stereotype of what makes a woman beautiful. I’m telling you what ladies, ALL of you reading this is beautiful. You are all unique and that makes you special. You don’t have to be a model to be pretty. You don’t have to have a lot of money to be pretty. What makes a person pretty is what is in their soul. Are you the kind of person that wants to see others succeed? I hope so.

I personally believe your vibe attracts your tribe. If you are negative you are going to get negative friends. If you are positive you are going to get positive friends. You can’t lead a negative life and expect to get positive results. What you put out into the universe is what you will receive. So surround yourself with like minded women who want to change the word. Because I tell you what, it only takes one woman’s fierce determination to change one thing. It’s better to change one thing about the world and leave it a little better than you came into, than to not try at all.

Until next time!



Why in such a rush?

First I was dying to finish high school and start college; And then I was dying to finish college and start working. And then I was dying to marry and have children. And then I was dying for my children to grow old enough for school so I could return to work. And then I was dying to retire. And now I am dying … and suddenly I am dying and somehow I forgot to live. — Anonymous

This quote was profound for me. I find myself doing this now. I find myself wanting so badly to be done with college and to graduate so I can obtain that “big girl job” and start a family. But what I often fail to realize is that the down time I get ( even though sometimes it’s very little), I won’t be able to have that once I start a career and have a family. Sometimes I forget that I am learning so much about myself through college; what I want to be and how I want to change the world (or my world), what classes I don’t like, what I’m learning, and how this college experience is teaching me so much about stamina and what it means to push yourself harder and further than you could ever think possible. College goals are hard, they are real, they are raw. For me, I am enjoying the college journey because I know once it’s done I won’t get this opportunity again. For me college is about learning more about how I am going to impact my society and pushing myself harder than I’ve ever imagined to graduate with honors.

This quote was also profound for me because I have been in a relationship for seven years. I have been asked a countless number of times throughout my relationship when I would be getting married. For the longest time I had wondered how long it would take for me to take that next step in life. However, after year four I gave up on the notion that I could possibly get engaged at any moment. It’s not that I didn’t want to get engaged but I wanted to truly enjoy my relationship and not worry about that status symbol and that being engaged and getting married meant that my last name would change and I’d sign a piece of paper saying that my status would change. I have learned great lessons over the last seven years.

1.You will start to take for granted the person you are with if you don’t live in the moment and appreciate them for the stage your relationship is in.

2.You will miss growing with the person you are with if you are more caught up in getting engaged/married.

3.You may take for granted the awesome person you are doing life with by being caught up in a status symbol.

My engagement was a complete and total surprise. I was caught off guard and 2,000 feet in the air. Over the last three years, I have learned that each person’s relationship is going to go at it’s own pace. Just because the tortoise beats the hare doesn’t mean it’s always what it seems.

Take the time to smell the roses because tomorrow is never promised.

Until next time