Being (a young) 26 there are plenty of things I have learned about life. One of the major lessons I have learned is that growing up isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. When you’re a teenager the friends you have you think you’ll have forever, the boyfriend you have you think you’ll marry and (some if not all) girls think that you can live like Carrie Bradshaw in New York City. Well life is much harder than that. Not only are there are decisions on which college to go to (do you stay in state, go out of state or take some time off) but there is this stigma that at the ripe age of 18 or 19 we have to know what we want to for the rest of our lives, or the majority of it. No pressure, this is only one of the constants you will have in your life for the next 30+ years. At that age we aren’t quite equipped to fully understand that we are making a HUGE decision.
Then we realize that the friends we have don’t always stay and this can be one of the hardest lessons growing up has to offer. The people that have been there for us, listened to our problems, gave advice and spent the majority of their time getting to know slowly drift away. Sometimes it’s because we grow to have different interests, likes or you simply just don’t like the person they or you are becoming. Losing friends can be like breaking up with a boyfriend; some are messy, some are painful, and some you hate now but will learn to appreciate what they brought to your life. I have experienced that and still am. What I’ve come to learn is that the handful of friends I do have are here to stay. They are the ones that have my back, will be there through my ups and downs. They age with you the way a Cabernet Sauvignon does over time. These are the people that you unapologetically love, that you’d do anything for. Part of the reason losing friends is difficult is because when you lose them, you lose you. You have to figure out who are without that person, how you can grow and discover what the future could hold.
Growing up we all think being an adult is full of rainbows and unicorns. Growing up allows us to delve deep within ourselves to find out what we want, what we are truly made to be. I’ve learned that I don’t need a lot of friends, just my few that are my ride or die. I’ve learned that building quality relationships takes time and effort, it doesn’t just happen overnight. Growing up may be difficult and seem impossible at times, but when we look back the heartbreak will be worth it because we will be exactly where the universe wants us to be.
Until Next Time