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Mean Girls Come From Mean Moms

I just read a woman’s blog post (link to the original article is at the bottom of this post) about how means girls come from mean moms. Is this true? Well if we look to the article and history we see that children mimic their parents. We also know that children learn how to act form their parents. In the blog, the woman says she said hello to another woman who was once mean to her. She thought the incident was behind them but when the woman didn’t say hello back, she realized something was still wrong. Here’s the problem, their daughters were there to witness that awful behavior. This article makes me think about young girls in today’s society. More specifically, my friend Jessica’s daughter. A few weeks ago, Jessica had posted that her daughter was told she isn’t pretty. I know her daughter and think very highly of her. She is one of the sweetest souls I have ever met. She is kind, loving and cares for others immensely. It broke my heart to read that some other little girl told her she wasn’t pretty. Why would a young girl do that? Why would a young girl think to say such a terrible thing? Why are young girls taught that it is socially acceptable to bully someone into thinking they aren’t beautiful. That’s what is wrong with our society. We teach young girls that they aren’t pretty, through Hollywood standards, magazines and television. How often do we see actresses coming out and showing how much a magazine or photographer has photo shopped their picture to be more like what their standards are? If I could Jessica’s daughter anything it would be this:

You are beautiful. You are enough. You are going to grow up to be one of the kindest and most compassionate souls. Sometimes people say things that hurt our feelings and we have to try to understand why they said that. Also, girls aren’t always nice. They aren’t taught how to give a compliment to someone. They aren’t taught to not say something mean. This is where you become one of the luckiest girls in the world. You see you have one amazing mom. She is going to teach you SO much about life. What it means to have the best friends a girl could have. Another thing your mom is going to teach you is that you can have confidence and feel beautiful. You are always going to be more than enough because your mom is going to show you how to live a life full of happiness. If there is any piece of advice I could it would be two things. 1. Every girl is a queen, so make sure you always hold your head up high, you don’t want your crown to fall off ­čÖé 2. Always be kind, even to those aren’t the kindest to you. They may seem unhappy or angry but if you provide them with a little sunshine in their lives (whether it be a compliment or saying hello) you could make their day.

What I have learned from this article, and many others, is that we have so many people who are unhappy, so why not be that symbol of hope? If we set aside our judgements about others, we would be able to see what people’s souls really have to offer. If you take anything away from this blog post, it’s that we as a society need to be nicer because we are the reason for the actions of the next generation. Parent’s raise kids to be nice or mean. Which will you choose?

Until next time


blogger, Dayton, life, Ohio

Have you heard of Peeple?

Yes, Peeple, as in the people rating app? I can’t remember how I came across this app, probably through the New York Times or some other news outlet. But this woman decided to create an app that rates people. I hope I’m not the only one who thinks this is a horrible idea. There are enough people that have a strong disdain for one another but to be able to rate them?! This isn’t Target where you are rating the sweater you just bought online…these are actual people. Now the app won’t be coming out until the end of this month but still, what honestly makes the creator think this is going to go over well?

For one, this country already has enough unhappy people, let’s know try to add to that number. I feel like this app just gives people one more reason to be mean and hide behind a computer screen. Let’s be honest, if someone is going to be mean they are going to have a much easier time doing it through the internet.

Second, I feel like this app could ruin someone’s livelihood. If a person is having a bad day, which we all have them, and someone goes on this app and gives us a terrible rating, it could go wrong, especially if the person being rated is a business owner. People want to know that establishment owners are happy people. Getting a bad review could be bad for business.

Third, this is only going to cause more people to feel self-conscious. Have you gone onto social media and seen what horrible things people say about people they don’t know?! People are terrible. I’ve seen people comment and tell someone to go die or kill themselves. This is not going to be positive in any way if someone sees a review like this.

I feel like this app is just another way for people to publish negative and hateful comments about others. Your thoughts?

Until next time


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An open letter to my best friend



To say I’m proud of you would be an understatement. Your hard work, persistence, and never give up attitude landed you in the Top 15 of Miss Ohio USA. Watching you last night on stage was one of the highlights of my year. This journey hasn’t been easy for you ( but how boring would it have been if it was?!) but you pushed hard, made sacrifices, and knew that with God on your side you could do anything you set your mind to. Preparing for a pageant is more difficult than anyone can imagine. You worked harder than ever; working out, practicing, and even watching what you eat (btw I hope your enjoying a donut as you read this!) to make sure your body was in top shape, and you looked amazing!

Caitlyn, you are one of the kindest, sweetest souls I have ever met. You show me day in and day out what it means to let God show your way. Throughout this entire process you have known all along that God has a bigger plan for you than you can imagine. I can’t even begin to tell you how amazing that is. Watching you grow and become more confident in yourself has been such a joy.

I am so grateful to have you in my life. Thankful for all of our conversations. Thankful to have a pageant sister like you that goes to the end of the earth for her bestie, even if we do live 3.5 hours away from each other. I am in awe of your grace and how much your give of yourself. I am so thankful for the friendship we share and can’t wait to see where your path will lead you. ┬áThank you for being the role model, an inspiration, and more importantly for being a strong woman of God.

With love