Growing up in this world is a very beautiful yet cruel thing. Growing up you find out who you are, what you want to be, who you want to grow to be in life. Growing up can also be weird and hard at times. Being a girl there are so many things in life we have to learn about, so many things that can only be self-taught and so many things we wish we could do over.
If I could go back and talk to my younger self this is what I would tell her:
1. You are enough.
Growing up I always wondered if I was good enough. Good enough for the friends I had, the boy I was dating at the time, or the job I had. I was enough? (There are still days that are a struggle and I have moments when I’m not sure of myself)
2. That boy who told you, you were ugly is stupid.
Let’s face it, teenage boys are dumb. They aren’t going to be right or know the right things to say to a girl. They are going to make you feel bad about yourself because they have raging hormones that they don’t know how to control.
3. Your first love is going to hurt like hell.
Learned this the hard way and twice. The first boy I ever fell in love with, I dated for two years. I loved him and I loved him hard. I gave him my heart and I thought he gave me his, twice. What’s the saying? Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me? Yes, I gave my first love a second chance. I thought we were going to be better but you can’t fix what’s already broken. I would go back and tell myself that loving him was going to feel the world is ending, but it isn’t. He is just going to be one chapter in your life. He will always hold a special place in your heart and you’ll always have wonderful memories, but he is going to make you stronger, not break you.
4. Your first time is going to awkward.
Your first time is NOT, I repeat, NOT going to be like it is in the movies. (thank you to the notebook for letting us down) It’s weird and exciting all at the same time. It’s definitely something you’re going to remember.
5. Life is a journey of up’s and down’s…enjoy it because tomorrow isn’t promised.
I have always been the kind of person to worry about EVERYTHING! I have always thought that making sure every aspect of my life was perfect would mean I would be happy. THIS IS FALSE!!! Let go, live a little. Be a free spirit. Don’t take your friends for granted and let go of the ones who really only want something for you.
6.. Spoil yourself.
If you see a pair of shoes, buy them! Don’t pass up a good sale and always remember fashion is the best way to express yourself!
Until Next Time!